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If you don’t live in the moment, where do you live?
It felt like infinity, it felt like it was never going to end and here I am in my late twenties baffled and stunned to the rate at which time just flew by and how all those moments turned into a memory within a flash.
To be honest, this was the moment I was waiting for all my life, I was living for this moment and I was holding on for this moment. I never thought for once that there would come a time in my life when I would pause, look back and realise that the past moments I overlooked were everything and yet even after that realisation I still crave what the future holds more than I crave the present moment.
Nothing is more precious than being in the present moment, fully alive and fully aware.
Thich Nhat Hanh
It is true that human nature is never satisfied and it is difficult to hold ourselves accountable for some of our shortcomings so sometimes I shift the blame to the system of this world. Every month we learn about trending fashion, the best anti-aging creams to the latest technology. Companies are always coming up with ways to boost their sales through marketing and for them to stay relevant in this rat race and competitive ecosystem there is a need for them to continuously come up with something new, innovative and exciting for their consumers. This has created a culture of an unquenchable thirst for new and better things which await in the future making us lose sight of living in the moment.
I was introduced to this culture when I was still in kindergarten. I remember every year on Christmas Day I would receive a set of new toys from Santa Claus and gradually when the festive season approached I would do a count down for Christmas losing sight of other precious events and activities which took place in between before Christmas such as birthday parties for my close family members, graduation ceremonies for my close friends as well as wedding events for my close and far relatives. Soon after the Christmas event everyone around me, myself included would be looking forward to the New Year celebrations again taking the days in between for granted. Little known for others those were probably their last days on earth let alone with their beloved ones and it would only dawn on them that the moments and days they were taking for granted were in actual fact the best days because tomorrow was never promised.
The vicious cycle went on for years as kindergarten passed, I was looking forward to elementary school and as the years progressed high school, college and finally work which is the stage I am at now, working half across the world a thousand miles away from home. Looking back I realise just how blessed I was to share my amazing life and memories with my wonderful parents and siblings on a physical and consistent basis the people who genuinely care about my well-being. From the first day I came into this world, to the days I started walking, going to school, cooking, driving and taking my first flight abroad these amazing people were there through the trials and tribulations, through thick and thin they are a true embodiment of “day ones.” There were sacrifices which were made along the way and memories which I will cherish forever were made, and yet just like most of us I wasn’t fully present in those moments always on the outlook for the next big thing, with the sad fallacy in mind that the grass was certainly greener on the other side, that real happiness was found in the next phase of my life, in moving to a different country, in working for a new job and in the New Year.
It is only now when I have to call back home which is really expensive and sometimes take long flights which are really expensive too on limited time due to commitments that it has dawned on me just how the moments I had with my family back home, being able to talk to them daily without having to spend any money to do it, without having to wait for the next vacation to do it and without being time conscious were the big moments, because let’s be real the world is cruel out there, it is a dog eat dog world with almost everyone caring less about anyone but themselves. I am grateful for this moment and amazing people in my life because this moment even if it might appear small or unimportant is the greatest moment because it is everything I have for certain and once it passes by it’s never coming back. To anyone reading this I hope one day you will find the courage to , “Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now.”
“Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now.”